Is it for me or for my dog?
By Dr. DresslerDecision making when loving a dog with a cancer diagnosis can be tough.
Many times we will experience some degree of confusion in decision making. There are many options that are presented. Should I allow chemotherapy? Amputation? Is radiation really worth it?
I think that a lot of the difficulty may not actually relate to just a weighing of objective facts and data. It can seem this way, but I believe many times it is not the facts and figures that leave unanswered questions or that feeling of nagging doubt.
On the contrary, we are not simply judging survival times of lymphosarcoma or the impact of the grade your dog’s mast cell tumor on treatment options. It is not simply a question of whether we should test for the MDR mutation (chemo sensitivity), or whether Coenzyme Q’s antioxidant effects are truly outweighed by its benefit in protecting the heart from the effects of Adriamycin.
It is not whether curcumin really does get into the bloodstream at pharmacologic doses, or whether luteolin’s mast cell stabilizing effects occur in both rodents as well as in dogs. Which is truly better, Alaskan sockeye salmon oil or krill oil?
It is very easy to get overwhelmed and lost in these decisions.
I would like to propose that this experience is not just due to the decisions. Instead, I believe that many times there is confusion about whether the treatment is for the dog with cancer, or for the dog lover.
Many of us are plagued by guilt, frustration, despair, and overwhelm during these times. A central theme in these periods is a nagging feeling of uncertainty.
This feeling may stem from a lack of clarity in the motivation for choosing a treatment.
Is it for me or for my dog?
This is a very central question that should be answered. Do not be too fast is discounting it as silly or obvious. It is not, not at all.
When you are feeling uncertain or lacking confidence, one trick is to take time with your dog and focus all your attention on your dog. When you are totally focused on your dog, re-ask yourself which direction you should take.
If you give yourself adequate time really focusing on your friend, companion, family member, copilot, buddy, or however you describe this loved life, your answer will come bubbling up.
Then focus on facts and the material decisions.
For more on topics like these, check out the dog cancer book at http://dogcancersurvival.com
Best,
Dr D
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3 Comments
March 23rd, 2009 at 12:03 pm
Thanks for this message! Its comforting to hear that the “nagging feeling” you describe is a common one!
March 23rd, 2009 at 1:37 pm
Thanks, Demian–this is exactly what I need to read today.
March 23rd, 2009 at 7:20 pm
We decided to try surgery as a last resort because our 11 1/2 yr. old dog was not ready to give up. Check out photobucket.com/patricia1594 for a photo of my dog sitting next to her 13 pound “inoperable tumor, two weeks after surgery. Three months have past and she is running around like a puppay.